When the day is done, where do you go?
If you tend to go from home to work or school and back home again, not visiting another location at all, you might be lacking a vital component of work-life balance: a third place.
Sociologist Ray Oldenburg coined and fleshed out the term “third place” in the early 1990s.
The term refers to public spaces outside your home (first place) and workplace (second place) where you can relax, socialise, and feel a sense of community.
Third places like cafes, bookstores, parks, and community spaces typically have a welcoming and informal atmosphere.
They’re often public places where strangers get on with it, whatever that means for them. Simply existing where other people are out enjoying life is essential in maintaining a positive mindset and balanced lifestyle, even if you don’t directly chat with them.
These places are free from the expectations of productivity and professionalism and tend to foster chilled-out conversation and a general sense of interconnectedness to society.
Having a third place or ten that you frequent is therefore critical to work-life balance: it’s the whole ‘life’ part.
Why Third Places Matter
Third places offer a surprising range of benefits for business-driven go-getters, and the reasons go beyond the casual coffee break.
A change of scenery can spark new ideas. Stepping outside the usual office environment allows for fresh perspectives and the chance to encounter unexpected inspiration through interaction with different people or simply observing the world around you.
Third places provide opportunities to meet potential clients, partners, or collaborators you might not encounter in your usual professional circles.
Striking up conversations or overhearing snippets can lead to valuable connections and open doors to new business opportunities.
These spaces can be hubs for casual learning. Conversations with people from diverse backgrounds can expose you to new ideas, trends, or industry insights you wouldn’t have come across otherwise.
The break from the usual work environment allows you to de-stress and recharge. A clear head can lead to better decision-making, improved focus, and, ultimately, higher productivity back at the office.
Meetings held in a third place can feel less formal and create a more relaxed atmosphere. This can foster better communication, build trust, and strengthen client relationships.
The bottom line is that third places help create a clear separation between your work and personal life. Taking a working lunch at a cafe or holding a brainstorming session in a co-working space allows you to be productive outside the office while still maintaining boundaries between work and home.
However, the idea of third places must transcend work lunches and walking meetings in order for the full mental health and wellness benefits to be felt. Carve out time for hobbies, socialising, and general tomfoolery, where you can release yourself from expectations and let your hair down.
Third, places in both work and non-work contexts matter deeply. It’s not just about leisure; it’s about strategically using these spaces to boost creativity, build networks, and ultimately achieve success.
Keeping It Offline
The argument that online spaces count as third places runs deep. Here are the pros and cons: decide where you sit on the issue yourself!
Online communities, forums, and social media groups can provide a sense of belonging and connection with people who share similar interests. This can be especially valuable for those who live in remote areas or have niche hobbies.
Online platforms can facilitate casual conversations, debates, and discussions, replicating some aspects of social interaction found in physical third places.
And finally, third spaces are accessible 24/7 from anywhere with an internet connection, allowing participation regardless of location or time constraints.
But is community building strong enough without a physical presence? Is social interaction a true connection to society when not everyone can log on? Not everyone has equal access to the technology or skills needed to participate effectively in online spaces.
The absence of physical presence can limit the depth and richness of social interaction. Non-verbal cues and the ability to build rapport through shared physical space are missing online.
Online communities often require active moderation to prevent negativity and create a welcoming environment, which can be a challenge.
So, the verdict? It’s up to you, but perhaps it depends on how well an online space fulfils the core functions of a third place. If an online community fosters a sense of familiarity and neutrality and allows for causal interaction and optional participation, then let’s call it even and consider it a digital third place.
The concept of “third places” is evolving alongside technology. While online spaces offer unique benefits for connection, they might not fully replicate the social and environmental aspects of physical third places.
Best of Both Worlds
If you’re so busy with work that you cannot have a third place, then stepping outside the office and working in a different setting still gives you many of the mindful benefits talked about here.
The key is to find a third place that fosters creativity, offers opportunities for connection, and provides the resources you need to move your business forward. Consider your needs, budget, and work style to find the perfect fit.
Co-working spaces
Co-working spaces provide a professional work environment, networking opportunities with other entrepreneurs, and potential for collaboration, and often have amenities like meeting rooms and business resources.
However, these places can be expensive and might not have the same social atmosphere as some other options.
Innovation Hubs
Incubators and innovation hubs allow you to surround yourself with other founders and innovators, access mentorship, workshops, funding opportunities, and the potential for collaboration on projects.
The downside is that these hub spaces can be competitive to get into, and you might have specific requirements for the type of business you’re working on that don’t connect to the places you could visit.
Maker spaces
Maker spaces give you access to tools and equipment for prototyping and creating physical products, perfect for hardware start-ups or those needing physical prototypes.
But they might not be the quietest environments and can come with membership fees.
Networking events
Industry-specific networking opportunities are a great way to connect with potential clients, investors, or partners in your specific industry, learn from industry leaders, and stay up-to-date on trends.
But third places matter because they’re always there for you to visit. Networking events can be occasional rather than a regular hangout spot, and like other places listed here, they might have registration fees.
Third Places to Frequent
The list of third places is extensive, but here’s a list to get you thinking about places to live life outside of home and work.
Cafes
Coffee shops are quintessential third places. They offer an inviting atmosphere with comfortable seating, delicious beverages, and often Wi-Fi access.
People frequent them to relax, chat with friends, read a book, or get some work done outside the office. If you can do something at a café that you’d typically just get done at home, why not branch out and park up with a brew at a local eatery?
Libraries and Bookstores
Libraries are havens for bookworms and knowledge seekers alike. They offer a quiet, peaceful environment to read, study, or browse stacks.
Many libraries also host events and programs, making them a great place to meet new people and learn new things.
Similarly, bookstores offer a curated selection of books, magazines, and other reading materials, as well as a comfortable space to browse and discover new reads.
Many bookstores also host author readings and book clubs, making them a great place to meet fellow book lovers.
Parks
Parks are a fantastic option for those wanting to connect with nature and get fresh air. They provide space for walking, running, biking, picnicking, or simply relaxing on a bench and people-watching.
Museums
Museums offer a stimulating environment to learn about history, art, culture, or science. They can be a great place to spend a rainy afternoon or to spark curiosity and conversation.
Community Centres
Community centres are hubs for social activity and recreation. They often offer a variety of classes, programs, and events, as well as meeting spaces for clubs and groups.
Markets
Farmers’ markets are a great way to support local farmers and producers while enjoying fresh, seasonal food. They also offer a lively atmosphere and a chance to chat with vendors and fellow shoppers.
No matter where you end up, having a Rolodex of third places and spaces to frequent will do wonders for your work-life balance.